October 2011
By request
Previously posted outfit:
- earrings, scarf - Francesca’s
- cardigan, jeggings - Old Navy
- white tank, white shirt - Forever 21
- purse, boots - Target
What can I say, I really throw down the big bucks for my wardrobe.
“We are entering a golden age of journalism. I do think there has been horrible frictional costs but I think when we look back at what has happened, I look at my backpack that is sitting here, and it contains more journalistic firepower than the entire newsroom that I walked into 30 to 40 years ago. It’s connected to the cloud, I can make digital recordings of everything that I do, I can check in real time if someone is telling me the truth, I have a still camera that takes video that I can upload quickly and seamlessly.”
—David Carr reflects on the future of journalism. (via nprfreshair)
brklyn: on cohabitation and marriage. →
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Steph has been posting about her struggle with these topics recently and of course that has made my little brain go a-whirling on them as well.
I think everyone is entitled to their own opinion on both of these things. Marriage isn’t for everyone. Living together isn’t for everyone. And I respect each person’s personal decisions and thoughts on these things.
It’s always so interesting to me to hear how differently these things can be handled. People get married after knowing each other less than a year. People date forever and never marry. People move in together after a month. People don’t live together until they are married. There are a thousand scenarios. And no one is able to tell you which one is right for you.
I think ultimately you have to be honest with yourself about what your opinions on these things are so that you don’t get hurt and so that you don’t hurt the one you’re with. And while occasionally these aren’t the most fun conversations to have, I think they’re probably some of the most important.
I know myself well enough to know that marriage isn’t something I want to jump into. Do I want to get married? Yes. One day. But I’m not in a rush. To me marriage is a step along the path and not the ultimate goal. And I feel like so many people today view it as a goal. When I get married I want to be married forever. And I know that most everyone feels that way, but they still jump into things more quickly than I’d be comfortable with. I am many-faceted and I don’t want there to be a single side of me that whoever I am going to marry hasn’t seen. In my opinion, in order for every facet of myself to be made visible then you have to live with me. Even just the little things. How I do my laundry. How I buy my groceries. How I dance around all the time.
But I don’t think anyone can tell me that this isn’t right for my life. Or that if we live together before we get married then we’re more likely to get divorced. You make the conscious effort every day to go on loving the person you’re with. And living together before marriage does not make you get a divorce. Making the decision to get a divorce is what makes you get a divorce.
I understand if you don’t want to live together before marriage. I respect your decision to do that. There is no timeline that is right for every couple. For every person. Everyone does things at their own pace. And really when it comes down to it the only person you should have to explain it to is your partner. And as long as you communicate it’ll all work out, even if you don’t agree on every single thing.
Just my two cents.
This girl gets it. Haters, gtfo. I know a girl who got married last October and was involved in divorce proceedings by January because they LITERALLY just could NOT live together. Couldn’t handle it. So I definitely see a benefit of living together before marriage. So for me, it works. For others, maybe not. But this explains exactly why it’s up to you to decide.
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I just spent the last 2.5 hours of work thinking today was Wednesday
BEST THURSDAY EVER!
Grow Old With You/ Matthew Mayfield
My hands at your sides
Your hands wrapped closely around a hope for you and I
That’s one more reason why I can’t let you goMy heart was broke before
Your heart came boldly through the door
In through the storm
And for that I’ll give you my life and love restoredSo hold me while we’re here, girl
Cos’ we may not be next year
But how lovely to grow old with you…
Grow old with you.I’ve made up my mind
Ain’t no way I could ever deny
That you love me and in time
I may be gone, but I’ll never leave your sideSo hold me while we’re here, girl
Cos’ we may not be next year
But how lovely to grow old with you…
Grow old with you
Grow old with you
Grow old with you
Grow old with you
Love this one from the new album.
“Nobody tells this to people who are beginners, I wish someone told me. All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase, they quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have. We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know its normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you will finish one story. It is only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and your work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It’s gonna take awhile. It’s normal to take awhile. You’ve just gotta fight your way through.”
― Ira Glass
Printing this and posting it at eye level in my office is one of the best decisions I’ve made in a while.
I wish you could Google "What's that song we listened to a lot during Spring Break my sophomore year of college?"
And not only would it answer correctly, it would also get Pumped Up Kicks out of your head.
“Then there was the big upset. This is the Miracle on Ice, Douglas over Tyson and Appalachian State over Michigan all rolled into one. Backed by an aggressive social media campaign, 15-seed Bud’s Best Cookies proved they were indeed best by knocking off the stalwart Krispy Kreme Original Glazed Doughnuts by a 61% to 39% margin. I guess we know who’s really “hot now.”
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Bracket-Shattering Upset Marks First Round | Real Southern Men
Thanks for everyone’s help who voted yesterday! Success is literally very sweet here in our office :)
Can you guys click this link and vote for Bud's Best Cookies at the bottom? Pretty please? →
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This is one of our clients and it would be HUGE for them to knock out Krispy Kreme in this competition!
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Erin Condren $50 voucher for $25 through Plum District today! →
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Plum District is on a ROLL with me right now.
I'm going to marry myself like Carrie Bradshaw
Sometimes you’re just minding your own business, catching up on your favorite blogs, when Cup of Jo tells you about this amazing Etsy store full of vintage rings and jewelry at really nice price points. You click over to check it out and find a few items you are in love with like this little guy.($282)
Then you make the mistake of searching for vintage rings (okay, okay, it was vintage engagement rings.) And you spend the next 30 minutes bombarding someone on gchat with the rings you are dying for. First you find this guy, and you think he’s the one. (He’s just $385!)
And this one also tempts you. (At $660, a little pricier, but oh so lovely!)
But then you stumble on a ring so gorgeous and perfect, you consider dropping $765 on it and buying YOURSELF an engagement ring. I will marry myself for this ring.
So that’s the story of how I spent way too much of my work day searching through etsy and considering purchasing myself diamond rings.
on wedding registries
Katie: people with trifle bowls on their registry please explain your life to me. you’re 24-25. when are you making a trifle?
me: banana pudding, katie!
Katie: haha okay i guess
me: puhlease you want a muffin-maker
Katie: that is USEFUL. i will make many a muffin! blake and i do not eat banana pudding
me: you could also use it as a fruit bowl
Katie: a $50 fruit bowl. i take it you are very pro-trifle bowl. i just want someone to use that $50 on something baller like a quesadilla maker AND the mini muffin maker. please you could get both for 50 bones! and still probs get some chips or something for yourself
me: I’m going to blog this
Katie: haha good i need people to share my trifle bowl hate or your love. either or. also i need them to know that i am practical and frugal even with their money
me: I really wanted to blog about your double fast food breakfast too but restrained
Katie: that double breakfast has kept me full even until now so i stand by it
First of all, there is nothing wrong with having a smoothie AND hashbrowns for breakfast. It’s 2 pm and I don’t even need lunch yet!
Secondly, why WOULDN’T I fill a registry with things that would be cool and I’ll use?
These items would delight my taste buds and help me be more domestic and wife-y. A trifle bowl will not. I don’t even buy enough fresh fruit to need it as a fruit bowl. I also go back and forth a lot on whether I even want to register for china. Same goes for 12 martini glasses, or a gravy boat.(But don’t you dare think I wouldn’t register for 42 wine glasses!) (Also, there is some dispute in our house over the need for everyday plates, as Blake has a whole mess of what we call “the brown plates” that he thinks suffice.) China’s saving grace is that Kate Spade has a line. Would a Kitchenaid mixer be cool as all hell? Of course! But if I’m asking someone to drop that amount of bones on a gift, I better start cooking and baking a lot more. I’d probably be a lot better off if you take that $350 and buy me a nice George Foreman, maybe a panini press, some great baking sheets and some nice bedding. Because I will USE all that and look forward to coming home each day, making grilled chicken tenders or a panini for Blake and me, sliding a tray of cheese sticks in the over for dessert and then zonking out on my 500-thread count sheets under a downy cloud.
I’ve seen some RIDICULOUS registries from some friends and acquaintances lately, and I’m just sick of people asking for crap like this and $100 tiny picture frames.
Harry Nilson - The Puppy Song
Last night Blake and I were flipping through options for one last thing to watch from the hard drive before we went to bed. I saw that he’d downloaded You’ve Got Mail and told him it had such a great opening scene - couldn’t we watch it real quick?
Which is how we ended up having to force ourselves to turn the movie off at 12:45 am right before Joe Fox goes to meet Kathleen Kelly at the coffee shop. I say if you ever have a guy who will willingly watch You’ve Got Mail with you, you better hold on tight.
Dear Katie, You is kind. You is Smart. You is important. Just thought I'd share the love on this happiest of internet days. xoxo, Brooke
Brooke is the sweetest and made my day. Love you!
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Trying to be an adult
For over a month now I have suffered every time I step in the shower. The water is warm (never super hot) for approx 3.5 minutes before turning cold - no exaggeration. I’ve had to sacrifice shaving my legs some mornings, or getting all the conditioner out of my hair, just to get out of the icy pellets.
I finally googled how to check into this tonight while simultaneously iMessaging Brooke. After about ten minutes I found instructions to turn up the temp controls on my gas water heater. I braved the weird bugs on it (what?! Gross!) and cranked that sucker up just a bit since the previous tenant had it turned alllll the way down. I’m hoping that fixes the issue and tomorrow’s shower will be GLORIOUS.
So in theory, I could post a picture of myself taking a bath now and enrage the entire Internet.
Today is my Friday.
Today is my Friday.
you shall love your crooked neighbor: brighteryellow: Grief is confusing.
Because I will always remember him... →
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Grief is confusing.
Because I will always remember him through the same eyes I had when I was twelve, and I don’t know him at twenty-one. And I don’t know what to do with that. I mean, there’s a whole mess of things related to grief that I don’t know how to compartmentalize,…
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Best Friend Rights and Regulations, from Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?
Beating Tumblr to the punch on this one. Mindy Kaling, is, as usual, on point.
THIS IS EVERYTHING.
Guess what won't help you think of a fun Halloween costume idea?
Googling “fun Halloween costume 2011”
