Spending time today remembering my dad. He passed away 13 years ago today. Half my life has gone by, and this year was one of the biggies. One of the things I’d known since I was 13 was that I’d miss having him to walk me down the aisle. I was so thankful to have my stepfather there by my side. Rather than spend time sad about things like this, I prefer to spend today focusing on happy memories of him and our family.
We have to move. I am weak and slow and uncoordinated. The way things are going, looks like that’s not going to ever change much. But I still do some form of physical activity every day, because human beings were designed not to sit in front of glowing screens all day but to move around. Want to be healthy? You don’t have to be an Olympics contender. You don’t have to run if you don’t like to run and you don’t have to spend a lot of money if you hate the gym. You do, however, have to exercise, consistently. Your low blood pressure and not-overtaxed heart will thank you. We have to feed ourselves. I am a natural cook. (I’m not bragging; my roast chicken will do that for me.) I am not, however, some foodie whose kitchen looks like a Williams-Sonoma. Few of us are. Let go of the idea that you’re too busy, or unskilled, or what the hell, you’ll just have a Luna Bar. You need to feed yourself so you’re not eating crap out of boxes you know isn’t good for you, and so that you can feed others, like your family. Put down the damn Luna Bar and make yourself an omelet or some spaghetti. It’s not hard. And it gets easier, quickly. We have to be able to write a coherent sentence. Know this: There are many, many occasions in this world in which auto-correct will not save your butt. Stop hiding behind the excuse that you’re the data person or you’re better face-to-face or whatever. This thing you’re composing is not a searing opus for the New Yorker; it’s what? An email to a co-worker? A friggin’ text? I know, yeah, you’re in a hurry because you have a thousand other tasks to do, but the written word deserves a little respect. Clear communication needs to be a priority. Write your message. Now take a minute to read it back and ask yourself, does this make a lick of sense? If the answer is yes, then and only then hit “send.” We have to think about other people. Technically, you could, if you chose, swan through life never giving a subway seat to a tired-looking pregnant lady or opening a door for a person with a walker. You could forever fall back on the “I don’t ‘do’ birthdays” excuse for not sending your mom a card. But just understand that would make you a selfish brat. Adults move through the world with the knowledge that they share it with others and then they show up on time for your social engagements. So grow the hell up and shut off your phone during the movie. We have to do the math. As I believe I have mentioned, I am bad at math. When splitting a check in half — half! — I reliably figure it out wrong. (How is this possible? I don’t know either.) I do a lot of crying while balancing my checkbook, and not just for the usual reasons. I chose my college in part because there was no math requirement. I now muddle by with the help of calculators and software, though if I’m doing basic figuring – money, distances – I usually try to do it manually first, to stay in the habit of doing the actual work of math. Why? Because a grown-up needs to be able to maintain a budget and not run away when her kid asks her to check her homework. That’s just how it is.
Taking the most personal of personal days today.
Atlanta Thanksgiving Day Half Marathon
Or, that day I almost froze to death in a race and therefor ran almost 2 minutes slower per mile than I intended.
I ran this half as the third leg of the VW Triple Peach (summer 10K and earlier 10 mile race were the first two legs.) I knew I’d slacked on my training a bit in the last few weeks, and also knew that I don’t run well in the cold, but I still prepped for the race on Wednesday and woke my butt up on Thursday because by GOD I was going to finish this big hairy audacious goal of running all three races.
I bundled up in a tank top, long sleeve running top, and sweater on top and my trusty running skirt, tall compression socks and an extra large pair of sweat pants on bottom. That crushing ear warmer plus a bright pink scarf and cheap gloves completed my look. I anticipated shedding the scarf, sweater and pants right before the beginning of the race and gloves at mile 4 at the latest. (They were donating all clothes shed and left beside the race course to a charity in town.)
Wrong. As I mentioned, I kept the sweater and scarf for a few miles and then never threw off the gloves or giant sweat pants. All my planning and thoughts on which technical material would keep me warmest but also not chafe but also that I had worn on long runs before, blah blah blah, and a $5 pair of huge sweatpants worked just fine for the slow pace I was keeping. Of course.
The course was definitely better than last fall’s half in Atlanta. I’d love to do it again (I’d do the entire Triple Peach again in a heartbeat!) but the logistics of doing this race at 7:45 AM and then having to be showered and in Alabama by noon CST was triiiiiiicky.
Like I mentioned, the cold just really did a number on me (which wasn’t helped by the fact that I busted on some ice at the second water station) and my phone died about a quarter of a mile in so I had no idea what my pace was most of the time. I was on pace for the first 8 miles (judging by my “splits” at each mile marker,) but the last 5 were still below freezing and I just couldn’t get it up for them. So, I missed my goal time. By quite a bit. I know I would have had it in me in October, as I finished the 10 mile race right at my goal pace, but that’s okay. I ran a half marathon, my third, and that is something to be proud of in and of itself.
I still got a 10 minute, 27 second PR from my first half, though, so I will take that as a small victory, and you better believe I will hit that goal time in the spring. I may never be fast like some of you guys but I know I can at least make it through the distance, so I am not quitting on running.
- Body: 10 Pure Barre Classes. 1 - 2 yoga classes. Run 20 - 25 miles as I start training for spring half towards second half of the month - gotta detox from too much running this fall :) Track all foods in MyFitnessPal.
- Mind: Read 5 books. I have something like 9 or 10 days off this month, so I want to use some of my free time to catch up (partially) on my reading goal. I’ve been buying Kindle daily deals like crazy and have a good stockpile. Attend or at least register for one local networking event. Set a date to review roles and goals. Review LinkedIn and personal website before year end.
- Home: Clean and organize linen closet. Figure out what to do with old cabinet/table situation in kitchen. Hang mirror and some frames in bedroom. Get rid of or store extra blankets and pillows that are taking over the bedroom.
- Miscellaneous: Vacuum car. Take donation bags to Goodwill. Have friends over for holiday drinks and snacks. Make Christmas cookies with Blake. Hem dress pants. Watch Holiday Inn.
Lots of little things to knock out before the end of the year. Hoping to start 2014 on a great foot by wrapping up this month in an awesome manner.
this is perfect.
Lately I keep seeing these small apartments that are so cute and pulled together and I want them all but also want to be able to go to a completely separate floor of the house when Blake’s buddies wanna play Risk until 6 AM. I love this for sure, though.
November Goal Recap
- MOVE YO BODY: Achieved about 30 of my goal of 60 running miles. Only walked about 10 - 15 miles of the 30 that was my goal. I went to 3 non-running exercise classes/sessions of the 5 I was shooting for, including my first Core Fusion class and yoga and Pure Barre. That sounds like a 50% completion rate to me, which would be an F on a test but I’m giving myself a C-.
- LOSE IT: I didn’t lose 4 pounds, but I did lose my Diet Bet goal. B-
- SMART SHOPPING: Set up my holiday budget and purchased maybe half of my gifts so far. I didn’t do so great on limiting the personal shopping - dang J Crew Factory and Target got me with some great deals, and the new crops/running tights for the half turned into new textured Wunder Unders. Another C effort.
- BRAIN FOOD: Read 2 of my 4 goal books and am halfway through The Signature of All Things (which is pretty lengthy but good so far!) Need to see what next steps are for roles and goals now that I’ve refined it. B-
- BE IN THE NOW: Meh - I was slightly better about this. I’d give myself another C.
- EARLY BIRD GETS THE WORM: FAIL on the morning workouts. Ugh, I just can’t work out in the morning. I also completely failed at this water goal. I changed my snooze settings and they actually helped! Another C-.
- WINTER IS COMING: I did everything on this list other than dry clean my coats. Cleaned out the closet, got rid of spring/summer things I hadn’t worn all year, donated about 4 pairs of jeans, and got the winter things out of storage. Hoorah! A-.
- THAT’S FUTURE KATIE’S PROBLEM: I am deciding between two spring halves right now - one in Birmingham in February and one in Tuscaloosa in March. I made a training plan for both so we will see when I feel like getting back on the running train. I didn’t sign up for a December race but am still eyeing a few. B-.
Could have done a little better overall, but nothing huge that I’m mad about. I felt like I took care of some good goals this month with the half, cleaning out my closet, and setting things up for Christmas. Ready for December!
We live in an age where we feel guilt whenever we have to cut someone off but the reality is that some relationships do need to die, some people do need to be unfollowed and defriended. We aren’t meant to be this tethered to the people in our past. The Internet mandates that we don’t burn bridges and keep everyone around like relics but those expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy. Simply put, we don’t need to know what everyone else is up to. We’re allowed to be choosy about who we surround ourselves with online and in real life, even if it might hurt people’s feelings.
This. This. This.
Scenes from a Thanksgiving holiday:
· Second Friendsgiving with Blake’s buddies. I wish we saw these guys much more often.
· This houndstooth ear warmer was a last minute addition to my running outfit for the Thanksgiving half marathon. It lived up to its $3 price tag by almost squeezing my ears off during the race. It was way too cold to throw off while running, though. I have now learned that I run even slower when it’s 22 degrees out. Thoughts on the race to come.
· Running 13.1 miles meant I earned my turkey, ham, mac and cheese, mash potatoes and definitely this insanely good chocolate chip pecan pie that was our contribution to the meals. Hauntingly delicious.
· Blake got himself a Nintendo from Target’s black Friday sale and he looked just like a little kid playing it all weekend. Cracked me up.
· The only game day photo I have off the two of us from the Iron Bowl. This is clearly before things got terrible. Also, that Old Navy blanket coat is legit.
I took Thursday and Friday off this week off, so only two more workdays till the weekend. Let’s do this.
BLACK FRIDAY GIVEAWAY
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Today was … no bueno. Glad to see so many of you guys were pleased to see Bama lose. Happy some people can find joy.
This is a man READY for today’s game. Look at that camel hair jacket! So classy. Much handsome. Very drinks.
Slight delay in our road trip earlier. Never thought I’d be so glad to get to Auburn. Also, Blake managed to wrap up all his Christmas shopping for me in one trip to Wal Mart this Black Friday. I’ll be sure to show off my shiny new tires to all the gals.